Hi my name is Vanessa.
At 3-years-old, I was a rebellious wild child running circles around daycare teachers and getting labelled as “a very bad girl” from well-meaning adults until I reformed myself into an obedient, A-achieving student. Instead of following the beat of my own drum, I adopted the beat of others.
In elementary school, I struggled with friends, popularity and boys. This is when I developed panic attacks, anxiety, IBS and a fear of rejection (after being rejected at a grade 6 dance).
I went through an awkward phase with glasses, acne, a big nose and was “too skinny,” I started feeling ugly. All of this culminated into being somewhat of a late bloomer in “love”. The best decision I ever made was auditioning for a high school for the arts (in drama) but I never felt good enough to pursue arts as an adult.
By the time I hit university, I sort of lost who I was and loathed not just the person in the mirror but the person on the inside who kept betraying my soul by putting myself in situations I didn’t want to be in and pursuing dreams I didn’t believe in. My physical body was furious.
My first big break up at 23 was an awakening – I had blamed a lot of my unhappiness on my Ex-boyfriend where I felt trapped, unaccepted and like I could never live up to expectations (I sort-of felt like that at home too).
The seven years that followed were full of self-help, healing, professionals, independence and trying to break self-sabotaging patterns and limiting beliefs. I started this blog right in the thick of things and am still a work-in-progress.
But there’s been progress! On September 16th 2018, I married my twin flame and life partner when the time was right and I was ready. My IBS / anxiety is less severe but still kicking.
I’m passionate about helping others find their own path towards self-love, physical healing and true partnership with another. It’s what I have struggled with the most.
FUN FACTS (are we best friends yet?):
- Myers-Briggs: INTJ
- Fave Movies: Vicky Christina Barcelona, 500 Days of Summer, One Week, Cinderella, Clueless, My Best Friend’s Wedding
- Fave Reads: One Day, The Alchemist, Your Voice in My Head, Losing Clementine
- Must-See TV: Dawson’s Creek, Buffy, Girls, The Good Place, Jane the Virgin
- Role Models: Tina Fey, Amy Schumer, Jessie Cruikshank, Lainey Gossip, my grandma
- Fave Places: Paris, Lisbon, Bora Bora